Snow and Dandelions

snow and dandelions

This has been a Spring of contrasts. A time of doing deeper work with clients, growing into new ways of holding space for them, feeling the joy that comes with this joint exploration. It has also been a time of stagnation and playing the coach potato, feeling unease, fear and self-judgement.

I am familiar with both states of being, usually each in their own season, but this Spring they have walked with me side by side to a greater degree than before. Outside this weeks snow storm lasted for several days followed by a warm sunny weekend, the snow melted, and the dandelions coming out in the lawn.

With each new snow I settle back into the nested containment of the winter, relaxing into hibernation. With each warming there is a stirring of the expansive, active energy of summer. Somehow each day, even while a part of me is hibernating, the tasks of work and home are getting done anyway. Amid the unease there is joy and fun and productivity. Even when the snows come the dandelions are still there underneath, waiting for the sun to uncover them again.

Perhaps on the road to sacred union, to the expanded awareness of both Soul and Ego, in which they are jointly present and working together, rather than ranked in battle each against the other, this strange place of feeling them both together is one of the stages. While I am tempted to give up because the shadow ego is still present, I keep recognizing that my soul is also present, always.

The Ego’s resistance and fear is not to be overcome with force, or will, or judgement, but with discernment and compassion. There is a subtle balance, aware of your soul but present with your ego. Neither attacking nor running away. Not limp or frozen, but alive and joyful in your Being.

I am mindful of the great masters of horse taming, the whisperers, who know that the only way to come into harmonious relationship with a wild horse is through a gentle firmness and presence that in the end yields the control that you want, but from a place of agreement, respect and surrender each to the other.

You cannot fight a horse’s strength, but you can feel into its moves and flowing with every buck, each jolt, or twist and turn. Surrendering to the efforts of the horse to unseat you, you keep your seat and eventually come into a place where it calms itself and yields control. With the ego and the soul, we are both the horse and the rider, coming into communion.

Allowing our attention to dwell on the Soul that is always present, even when the ego is struggling. Noticing the fear, the catch of the breath, and giving yourself a fresh breath, feel into the level of Self that is witnessing the tension. Breath and release. Notice you can hold them in awareness together, release the either/or belief, consciously notice both; eventually the tension releases, the fear melts in the radiance of the soul’s love. Even under the snow, the bright dandelions are still present, calling out the sun again to melt the snow, leaving them bright and yellow in the green grass of summer.

(© 5/2013)

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Uniqueness of Experience

by Alan McAllister, CCHt PhD-phys

Meditate on a sunrise or a sunset. As simple and regular a daily fact as any on this spinning globe we all inhabit. One might consider this an excellent example of that core of modern scientific thought, the repeatability of experience. That one person, under similar conditions, will observe the same occurrence as another, is the property of repeatability that is essential to defining what is scientifically real.

There is power and usefulness in this concept, as evidenced all around us in the fruits of modern technology. Like any tool, however, of the hand or of the mind it may be carried to extremes, outside the bounds of its right or useful application. To maintain that only that which is repeatable is real, is over reaching and making the servant into the master; blinding our senses to the very experiences that are the foundation of observation and our understanding of what is real. Likewise, to maintain that the result or observation obtained under tight scientific control is the only answer, in fact to posit that there is always only one “right answer”, is a misconception that causes a great deal of subtle and not so subtle mischief in the world.

Return again to your sunset or sunrise. In fact there are only two days out of the year that this experience may be had everywhere on Earth, those being the equinoxes. All other days one pole or the other, and varying expanses around those poles, goes without; being in perpetual day or night, and until the seasons shift again. Thus we begin the circumscribing of a result with the conditions under which it holds true, or the controlling of the experiment, in which lies the greater part of the art of a good experimental scientist.

The day of the year, as the location on the globe, is a reasonable scientific variable. Considering it more closely, the Sun rises and sets not only at different times, but in different places, relative to a given vantage point, throughout the year. Only on the equinoxes does it set truly in the west, having risen truly in the east. On all the other days, where it crosses the horizon at all, it does so either to the north or the south of due east and due west.

One of the most important, but often ignored pillars of science is that every idea, concept, or fact has its limitations, conditions or circumstances outside of which it no longer holds, or only partially, or with modifications. In this sense nothing is absolutely real, or perhaps absolutely unreal, in spite of what scientists may maintain.

Once more your sunrise and the sunset, notice the infinite variations due to weather and atmospheric conditions, which while undoubtedly due to very scientific causes, are unique to the point of irreproducibility, in practice if not in theory.

Now, add in the qualities of your human experience of your sunrise or sunset. The emotional and aesthetic aspects of watching not a simple event, summarized in a single word, but the unfolding in time of an artistic masterpiece of light, air, and vapor with the landscape of the intersection of the sun with the horizon of the earth, will always be unique.

Human experience is always unique, and generally irreproducible, but certainly no less real than the sunset or sunrise that gives rise to it. Just as the natural conditions are never exactly the same, you are never exactly the same. Each human experience is the meeting of an infinitely complex and variable aspect of the universe, yourself, with the rest of that infinitely complex and variable universe. This does not make it unreal, even though it may be hard to quantify and reduce to simple variables.

Even if you somehow control all the natural, scientific, variables to be the same, it is impossible that you are exactly the same. Not even the same as yourself at another time, let alone the same as any other human being even at the same time. This uniqueness is true in the sensory processing of your brain, even before it comes into your conscious awareness, where your past and present emotional and mental being receives it, and the uniqueness of the experience compounds.

There is therefore an inherent tension between our human experience of the world and the ideal of scientific repeatability. This is not to say that idea/concept/ideal is not useful, or even beautiful, but that it is not absolute. There is as much reality to your subjective experience of the sunrise and there is to the fact that the sun will cross the eastern horizon tomorrow morning. Your human ability to mold a single, whole, experience of that sunset is both mysterious and very real.

It is both useful and interesting to explore the sameness in experiences, even to extend that to feelings and intuitions as the yogis have done for millenia. It is likewise important to realize that the wholeness of any experience will always be unique, and that if you do something differently, or come up with a different answer, or are a different sort of person, that is your experience, and it has its own level of reality.

It is generally useful to come into agreement and find common ground with others, but it is not the sole definition of reality. All great scientific advances have come out of someone’s different answer to an old question, or a new answer to a different question. We waste so much time chasing the “Right Answer” according to any number of outside sources (as we are taught to do this in most schools). Rather, know that you know your own answers and ask what they are. You may find them in a book, or talking to a teacher, but they may also come in your dreams, or by asking a different question, and you may find them in your heart while watching a particularly beautiful sunset.

Your experience is your reality.. even if its not repeatable.. and many of the best experiences are not repeatable.. be grateful and open to more.

(© 5/13)

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Hugging Yourself

I had a dream recently, in which an old friend and I met and gave each other a hug. It was a deep, long hug; a sharing of presence and being with each other, like melting into sleep. The body relaxed and the heart opened. What a wonderful, gentle, hello.

Take a moment, close your eyes, and let yourself remember the best hug you ever had. It may be a recent experience, or one from long ago. Let the memory arise from your body and being, relax into it, like sliding into a warm bath.

Perhaps you have memories of different hugs that were exceptional, but in different ways. Imagine that you can combine them into one glorious experience. As you play, notice that even if you are using imagination, you are feeling something real in your body right now. Let that feeling rise, open to it and breath it deep.You are now being present with yourself, much more than a memory. Embrace your own loving presence.

For me the art of hugging has to do with being present with myself and the other person. Grounding, dropping into myself, opening my heart, and becoming aware of my space and theirs. Focusing in this moment and releasing everything else. Sharing my presence with them and receiving their presence as it is offered to me. When you give it your attention, each hug is unique, each person and each occasion a different experience.

While a hug can be mechanical and perfunctory, it can also be rich and deep; there are layers to a hug. The physical aspect, depending on relative height, size. The different styles of hugging; is there still space in between, where is contact made, which side do you hug on? Is it strong or light? Under this there are emotional levels; how do you feel with this person? whether you have known them for years, or just met? Finally there is an inner layer of spirit, an energetic meeting that takes place within the physical and emotional shells. A deep hug, is a whole conversation in presence, sharing it with another human being; giving and receiving warmth, connection, permission to be, and love.

On each level we may be more or less present, with the other and with ourselves. There can be light hugs that are deep energetically, and bear hugs that do not share the heart. The variation is neither good nor bad, but something to notice, consider, and play with.

Remember/imagine/feel a hug for yourself, whichever is most needed in this moment. Give that wonderful hug to yourself, now. Allow yourself to feel it on all levels of your being; held, met, witnessed, with love and compassion. This is a resource for you at any time. Living it with another, a lover, or friend, or even a new acquaintance is wonderful, but this space or feeling is always available to you.

If you like you can wrap your arms around yourself, like the old high school gag, but imagine that energy of love wrapping around you, receiving it from Spirit or Self, dropping deeply into a space in which your heart is full and open; your being relaxed and vibrantly alive. Being present with yourself, in Love is always possible, right now.

(© 4/2013)

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Signal to Noise

by Alan McAllister, CCHt PhD-phys

Many years ago living, in Japan I had a chance to study with a Shiatsu master. Based on Chinese Medicine and meridians similar to the acupuncture meridians, diagnosis and treatment are done using relaxed touch to read the signals provided by the energy flows or stagnations in the client’s body. It took me about six months to begin to feel these energies. At the time I thought it was because I was learning to perceive something entirely new, something I had no real references for. I had to trust that there was something there and open to it coming into my awareness.

I now know that I was also learning to relax, not just my hands and fingers, but also my busy mind. I had to reduce the noise in my own space down to a level where I could notice the signals from the client. My thoughts, expectations, perturbed energy and emotions would all get in the way of this new thing I was reaching for.

A common analogy in yogic tradition is the stilling of a lake’s surface so that you can see into its depths. Different practices still the body, the emotions, and the mind, creating quiet space to become aware of the presence of the Divine. Stilling our human aspects, we learn to hear the voices of our spiritual Self. Being in nature, dancing, or listening to music that calms the mind are a few of the many techniques that help to reduce the noise so you can be aware of the signal.

When you listen to a conversation in a crowded room full of other conversations, you must pull the signal out of noise and it helps if you know the voice. If the conversation is in a second language it is harder to hear it clearly. An unusual accent, or a topic with unfamiliar vocabulary can also be a challenge. The better you know the other person’s style of communication, the easier it is. Sometimes it is not actually the hearing, but rather the concepts or ideas that are unfamiliar and therefore challenging. In this case raising your voice will not solve things.

Once you have a specific voice identified your mind can focus in on it, tuning out the other voices, filtering the noise away. Part of meditation is learning to focus your attention on what you are listening for. Learning to listen to a Spiritual voice, as opposed to a human voice, or even one of your own internal mental or emotional voices includes an extra layer of challenge. As when I was learning to listen to the flow of energy in another person, you are, at first, learning to hear a new type of signal. Each layer being perhaps more refined and subtle than the last, and often something completely different from past experience. All your ability to focus will not serve until you have learned what you are focusing on, until you have identified the new signal it will be lost in the noise.

Recently during a meditation with a friend, it seemed there was another element involved. When we are both tuning into Spirit, or our Self in a similar way, we link up to some extent. As we do this the signal we are focusing on is similar, while her internal noise and mine are more personal and therefore different. So the noise tends to cancel out, or at least not add up, there is more variety, but not more volume. The signal, our connection to higher Spiritual levels, or deeper aspects of Self, however, will overlap more and reinforce. This has an effect similar to boosting the signal relative to the noise.

Many practices, meditation, dance, or martial arts, are easier to do in a focused group than on your own. In part this may be a reduced level or ease of distraction, but it is also a matter of shared focus. Coming together with others to practice meditation or energy techniques can make them both easier and deeper. It may be as simple as a conversation on a spiritual topic, or a well orchestrated ritual, collective intent helps to boost the signal relative to the noise, helps you to tune in and hear better.

May the sweet signal of Spirit always be clearly discernible over the noise.

(© 4/2013)

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Balanced Commitment

In life, sometimes things flow and sometimes it feels like you are wading upstream. I love to swim and generally do so regularly. This past winter, having gotten sick for a while and then faced with cold weather and an outdoor pool, I managed to get out of the habit. This month as the weather has gotten sporadically warmer, my illness long past, I’ve been feeling it was time to get back in the water. Yet I found myself facing an internal resistance.

Something I love to do, that helps me stay fit physically and emotionally, and yet I had to move through emotional inertia and anxiety to get back to an old habit. Perhaps because it was a substantial practice and I was hesitant to recommit at the level that I had been swimming last year. Not that anyone was asking me to, but I have an internal expectation about what swimming means as a commitment to myself.

How often do we pull back from some action because we believe that by taking it we would be making a commitment that is larger than we can afford to? All I really want, or need, right now is a little time in the water, where I can let go of the tension and emotion of the day and find a measure of peace. I hesitate to commit to today, a short swim on a sunny afternoon, because I hesitate to commit to swimming 4 or 5 times a week for the next few months. I am wading into a small stream but it feel like swimming up a raging river.

I have seen this in groups where there is a collective project to which people would like to contribute, but they hold back because that have a picture that they must make a larger commitment than they are comfortable with. When everyone does this nothing happens. Often if everyone honestly spoke to how much they are comfortable with committing to, there would be enough involvement to complete the project and probably more so.

It seems human to believe, or assume, that commitment is all or nothing. Rather than being honest with ourselves about what level is comfortable, sustainable, or in alignment with our heart, and offering that, we walk away, assuming it will not be enough. It might not be, and the other parties will have a chance to speak their side, but you have not lost by offering something rather than nothing. There may also be times when we need to go beyond our comfort zone, but only if we are practiced at being clear with ourselves we can make this choice consciously and accept the outcome. Overcommitting without conscious consideration is usually problematic in the long run, for all parties.

Becoming clear in your heart about what you are comfortable with, you know what to ask for or offer, to yourself or to others, what you can commit to authentically. With this knowledge you can look at your mental assumptions, habits, and beliefs. Notice when you are making the prospect larger (or smaller) than it needs to be. Are these expectations real or illusionary, negotiable or absolute?

Weighing overextension and withdrawal honestly opens the vast middle ground of engagement that matches your heart, and invites others to match theirs. You can show up in your life more authentically, being honest with yourself and others, making commitments that you keep because your heart is in them, rather than for some mental expectation or belief.

Free from unnecessary resistance you will find yourself flowing downstream more and struggling upstream less.

(© 3/2013)

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