Do you have a new project coming along? or a major life shift? Often these are exciting to contemplate in the abstract, as if they are already accomplished, but the matter of figuring out and walking through the details can be overwhelming. This is especially true if you are creating something really new, with a substantial learning curve.
So let me ask, what is the real energy sink? If you’re like me there’s a mix of mental and emotional factors. The mind wants to have all the answers and plans, now, before you even start. This gets coupled to all the emotional fear and heaviness that comes with doing something new or complicated. If it’s a heart desire you’ve been wanting to do for a long time, there are old “why not to” tapes as well.
The trick is to break up this negative loop between the mind and the emotions, to keep the mind from looping through figuring out things it can’t handle yet, which triggers the fears and emotional heaviness, and buries the joy of your heart.
Let me suggest a possible way to do this. Start by putting off mentally committing to the whole thing. Whether you ought to do something new, particularly a big something, is often a question with way too many variables and unknowns. Letting your mind chew on something it can’t solve yet, is asking for all sorts of anxious trouble. So tell the mind to let that go. Give it to your heart and your intuitive knowingness. These can feel into the overall pattern and handle the general guidance, the go/nogo decision, and the timing of launch.
What the mind is good at is detailed planning. Let it do that, but set it up as a game. Pretend you are going to do whatever your heart is opening to. Then ask the mind, what do I need to have or do in order to allow this to happen? If there are pieces that are not clear yet, toss them back to Spirit. You can pick them up again later as they come into better focus, resources show up, or an offhand comment by a friend gives you an aha. The others you can start walking forward.
This cuts the mind free to be creative and imaginative, to make lists and check them off, but without all the emotional pressure; doing what it’s good at, without having to wade through old emotional baggage, invalidation programs, or any of the other things that slow it down and create effort.
Meanwhile you are tracking your heart’s desrire, noticing the hints and contributions from Spirit and deciding the big things in a holistic way that avoids over thinking things. This is what the heart is good at, especially when there are unknowns that have to be filled in over time.
By letting the your heart and mind each do what they do best, you can cut out much of the stress. If the mind freaks, tune into your heart and feel the desire there, release the negative stories, calming the mind and let it go back to making up solutions. If your heart quails, sit with it, breathing out the fear, until your soul certainty surfaces again.
This way you can play with your dreams, infusing them with your heart’s desire and joy, until they are already manifested, or at least launched, with planning and resources, and you can say to your mind, see it wasn’t nearly as bad as you might have thought.
(© 10/2012)
